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Causes and Effects of Discrimination towards Women

Discrimination towards women are most likely related to sexism. Why? Sexism itself brings the meaning of the unfair treatment based on gender. Sexism always related to discrimination towards women because typically, women are the ones who are being treated unequally. Recently, starting in the 1900, several laws have been established to remedy gender discrimination by several states and federals. For example, in the United State, there is few organizations such as the Civil Rights Act and Equal Pay Act that promotes equality between genders. Yet, despite all these policies, discrimination towards women is still there and seems to be endless. Today, discrimination towards women is still a big issue across the globe. This is because of the history and perception of the society which result in underrepresented and exploitation.

The first major cause to be discussed is the history that we have back in those years when women’s roles and value were low graded by men. Previously in a thousand years ago, women’s roles are terminated to a housewife’s duty only. Women are responsible to give birth to the children and ran the household only. A woman’s place was only her house by that time. To be in politics or becoming a leader in any field was ineligible for them. No women were allowed to voice out their opinion as they were assumed as ‘unknowledgeable’ and only men were allowed to be heard. A woman’s value also was low graded by men in the history. Usually, men only valued women for two things back in those times. One of them is sex pleasure which makes a woman seem to be as a sex slave and the other one is being a baby machine that only give birth to the children but doesn’t own the children. That is how poor the value of a woman in the history. It might be differ based on the years and regions but basically, every civilization today undergoes the same period where women were low graded by the men. It is clear that women’s roles and value in the history a thousand years ago play a role in why women are discriminated today.

The other cause is the perception that most of us has today which include men’s personal views and favoritism towards them. As we all know, some men always fear of compromising their masculinity. And there are also some men who interpreted masculinity as to have power over women. Most men can’t really accept a woman who tends to be more powerful than they are. Men always have the idea that women somewhat need protection and should not be stronger than they are as it is their job to take care of their women. In can be a good thing but also a terribly bad thing when men can’t differentiate between being protective or oppressed. Not just that, some people, including women themselves also agree that men are more assertive and professional than women. Some employers, teachers and even parents choose over a male than a female as they think a man have more chances and qualities to bring success. Most of us just agree that women have the attitude of being highly sensitive and emotional that they cannot be rational when it comes to working. In short, personal views of men and favoritism towards them are some of the society’s perception that preside over women discrimination.

Meanwhile, as to the effects, underrepresented is one of them in which women are again provided by insufficient representation both in the media and in business. Believe it or not, quantity of women representatives in the media are less than men. Most of the artists, directors and even the crews are actually men. Lately, starting from 2010, observation by the Center for the Study of Women in Television & Film’s stated that the percentage of female TV’s characters have fallen and less women are taking the leading character compared to men. Another statistic made by the same center said that only 18% of behind-the-scenes film workforce are women. This situation applies to business course as well. It is proved to be true when Stanford Graduate School of Business made a clear statement that only 4.5% of the Fortune 500 industrial directorship are held by women. Realizing the truth, law professor Deborah L.  Rhode said that it will take up to 70 years for women to achieve parity on United States corporate boards. She added that even if a woman ever made herself to the board, she will be facing another challenge where their voice will not be heard. They will be considered as outsiders. This is what had happened in the history, where women are assumed to be ‘unknowledgableand did not even got the chance to prove their ability. So, it is obvious that one of the effects of women discrimination is that women are underrepresented in media and business field.

Women are also affected by discrimination where most of them are exploited in the media, again and also family planning. In the media, we can see how a woman is sold by the producer and bought by the viewers. There are a lot of advertisements showing that women presenting products using their body figure. In those advertisements, some women do make some attractive gestures where they tend to move sensitive parts or other than that, showing them off. Women believe that this is how they gain money to make a life but they do not realize the fact that the industry is taking advantage of them. While in some other places, some other women are being exploited by the policy of their country in family planning. As for instance, in China, women are not allowed to have more than a baby or else the family have to pay more taxes. In contrary to some other countries where women can’t or does not wish to have a baby but still, they are forced to give birth or else the husbands will leave them. Obviously, these women have no choice but to follow everything. Again, women nowadays are actually being exploited by many parties in the media and family planning as well.  

All in all, women nowadays are enduring the effects of sexist situations where they are exploited and underrepresented because of the perception and history of women. Unconsciously, women are being used in the media and countries’ policies. Women are also represented inadequately in many fields. This is basically caused by the perception that men are better than women. Simultaneously, women are also discriminated back in a thousand years ago and this eventually becomes a tradition up until now. Those situations that women are having today will never a change until our perception is moved. Yes, it is admitted that women have some weakness that men doesn’t but that doesn’t mean that women deserved to be discriminated. Women are special creatures created by God. They are worth of respects and honors.  

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Dia yang Mengajar

Kata seorang kawan,

"Kalau kau tak boleh buat apa, lebih baik kau diam ja. Tak yah bebankan fikiran kau dengan stres memikirkan perkara tu. Kalau kau fikirkan cara terbaik nak atasi benda tu, then COOL."


Oh no..
Dia bukan golongan akhawat. Bakal. :)

Terasa jugak.
Tudung labuh tapi hati tak jaga.
Banyak tulis tapi tak buat.

Kita tak tahu dari siapa kita belajar.

Yang yakin, Dia yang mengajar kerana Dialah yang menghantar pengajar-pengajar ini.


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When You Thought You are Weak...

*mood berpuitis*

Beberapa hari lepas, aku diserang rasa lemah satu badan. Selsema, pening kepala dan rasa sakit di hidung bergabung. Badan terasa sedikit panas. Sedangkan, keesokannya, aku ada ujian penting. Dengan motivasi yang kurang, aku tak rasa keadaan ketika itu membantu. 

Puas menangis dan memujuk diri berkali-kali supaya kuatkan diri kerana di sini, aku tak punya Mama atau Baba untuk memberi perhatian padaku. Aku tak boleh biarkan tubuhku larut dalam keletihan sakit yang aku alami. Aku tahu betapa perlunya aku untuk belajar. Aku sudah gagal ujian yang lepas, takkan aku mahu sia-siakan peluang kali ini. 

Terasa kepala semakin terbeban bila aku gagal membuat keputusan. Sebelah otakku memberitahu yang aku takkan mampu belajar untuk ujian esok dan aku perlu dapatkan cuti sakit walau apa pun yang berlaku. Sebelah lagi memberitahu supaya aku belajar dan jangan cuba sesekali mendapatkan cuti sakit. Kerana sekiranya aku ingin mengambil cuti sakit, aku perlu hubungi Baba di tempat kerja dan minta Baba bawakan aku ke klinik kerana aku takkan mampu berjalan sendiri ke klinik dengan keadaan tubuh yang lemah!

Berdentum dalam kepala apabila aku cuba membuat keputusan. Aku hubungi Mama, tidak berbalas. Aku hubungi Naqibahku, turut tak berbalas. Dan tanpa ada rasional lagi di kepala, aku rasakan dunia seolah-olah tidak lagi peduli dengan aku. Tiada kawan serumah untuk memberi sokongan, tiada ahli keluarga untuk menyakinkan dan tiada 'sahabat' juga untuk meminta pertolongan. 

Mungkin ada, cuma aku sendiri yang tak mahu. Sekali lagi, aku terasa dunia amat menzalimi aku sedangkan aku hanyalah dimanipulasikan oleh lemahnya tubuh. Saat aku berputus asa, memikirkan dunia tidak lagi mempeduli, entah dari mana Dia hantarkan aku pemujuk diri. Aku dengan sendirinya bergerak memberitahu diriku. 

"Dude, this ain't what you want. You ain't here to be weak."

"Maybe I just need some rest."

Dengan hati yang ditenangkan dengan pujukan sendiri, aku melepaskan lelah di tubuh ke atas katil. Aku pejamkan mata. Dan, dengan kelemahan pada tubuh, mataku dengan mudahnya terlelap. 

Aku sedar pada jam hampir pukul 6. Mataku lantas terbuka, otakku ligat berfikir, hati lekas berkata, "Mandi dulu, solat, study." Maka, begitulah aku bergerak. 

Aku mandi kemudian solat dan barulah aku sediakan diri aku untuk belajar. Aku menghubungi Huwaida, memberitahu dia yang aku mahu batalkan makan malam kami malam ini. Tak rasa badanku ini mampu turun ke bawah. Lagi pula, masih ada sebungkus lagi bubur Campbell yang Mama bekalkan untuk sarapanku. Aku bercadang untuk masak bubur itu sahaja habuan makan malam. 

Tetapi, Huwaida terlupa membaca mesejku. Mujurlah dia naik ke rumahku sebaik sahaja jam menunjukkan pukul 6.30 petang. Dari situ barulah dia tahu yang aku ada hantar pesanan ke telefon bimbitnya. Dia ketawa dan sebaik sahaja dia menyelesaikan urusannya di rumahku, dia turun untuk membeli makanan. 

Memikirkan keadaan mungkin jadi lebih teruk, aku hubungi kawan-kawan terdekat untuk minta pertolongan mereka supaya belikan aku panadol. Aku hanya mahu bertahan hinggalah selepas ujian keesokan harinya. Aku berjaya mendapat pertolongan Syifa' yang baru sahaja selesai makan malam bersama ibu saudaranya. Dia dengan baik hatinya memberi pertolongan. Dipesannya bermacam-macam padaku semasa dia hantarkan aku tablet-tablet panadol tersebut. 

Aku bukanlah jenis yang degil makan ubat. Aku sebenarnya tak suka tubuhku rasa sakit, ia menganggu tugas harianku. Dan tambahan pula, keesokan harinya, aku ada ujian. Lagilah aku tak gemar diriku untuk sakit di saat-saat genting sebegitu. 

Aku sedar tubuhku perlukan tenaga. Perutku juga terasa lapar. Lantas aku hubungi Huwaida, memesan agar dia bungkuskan koey teow goreng untuk aku. Mujur, di zaman ini, masih ada sahabat yang ingin menghulurkan bantuan dan tidak kisah disusahkan. 

Entah kenapa, sejak menjejak kaki ke kolej aku jadi berprasangka pada kebanyakan manusia. Aku tak rasa mereka dengan mudahnya membantu aku. Dan sungguh, aku merasanya sendiri. Mereka tidak pernah rasa susah menyusahkan orang lain tapi tentunya, golongan ini tak pernah rasa senang menyelesaikan kesusahan orang lain. 

Dan, malam itu, aku gigihkan tubuh untuk belajar. Mama yang tadinya tidak memberi sebarang respon akhirnya membalas pesananku. Katanya, dia ada urusan di luar bersama Adik, menghalang dia dari membalas pesananku secepat mungkin. Rupa-rupanya, Mama dan Adik juga selsema dan demam sepertimana aku. Mama nasihatkan aku supaya makan ubat dan belajar mana yang mampu sahaja. 

Sejurus selepas itu, Kak Farah membalas pesananku. Katanya, dia terlupa untuk memeriksa telefon bimbitnya. Dia tanyakan keadaanku dan mencadangkan beberapa jalan penyelesaian. Aku turuti pesanan Kak Farah kerana aku yakin dengan kelayakannya sebagai seorang doktor. 

Kemudian, Adik memberitahu Baba tentang aku. Baba tawarkan diri untuk belikan ubat. 

"I'm not here to be weak."

Maka, aku tolak tawaran itu. Cukuplah dengan panadol sahaja. 

Ada sekali, beberapa orang kawan memberitahu yang aku tak sepatutnya mengambil ubat. Aku patut biarkan sahaja selsemaku berlalu. Aku diam. Dalam hati, puas aku membalas. 

"You are not there to see me crying."

"You are not there when my head was about to explode due to my sickness."

"Easy for you to say when you got nothing to be worried about, smartbrain."

Tetapi, sejujurnya, aku sedar, bukan salah mereka kerana tak tahu betapa sakitnya aku. Tapi, mungkin, salah aku sendiri kerana tidak membiarkan mereka untuk melihat betapa sakitnya aku. Atau mungkin, memang mereka takkan ambil tahu sekalipun aku tunjukkan.

Maka, aku sudah lama fahami hakikat ini. Manusia, kita berbeza. Maka diam sahaja kalau kau tak tahu betapa sakit ku rasa. 

Apapun, aku belajar benda baru. Bila ada kawan kita yang sakit, kita patut tunjukkan yang kita peduli. 

"Just be there for them."

Itulah dia pengajaran dari Allah untukku. 
Dalam sakit yang diberi
Dia tunjukkan padaku manusia-manusia yang bakal setia di sisi. 
Ada manusia yang akan dengan secepatnya memberi bantuan, 
maka mereka ini setia.
Ada manusia yang akan terlewat memberi bantuan,
mereka ini juga setia, 
tetapi kerana mereka adalah manusia, 
maka mereka juga punya urusan manusia untuk diselesaikan. 
Ada pula manusia yang takkan memberi bantuan, 
mereka ini,
hanyalah kawan sosial
digunakan untuk menambah pengalaman semata-mata. 


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Feeling like crying. 

I hope I can. 
But hold. 
I shouldn't. 
This life doesn't mean to be wasted. 

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What You Should Wear to The Class


So, here I am, writing a post for my long-time-untouched-blog.. Alhamdulillah.. Still get the chance of writing..

I don't know why but I guess this blog is becoming more and more informative these days. Did I managed to provide you guys with infos? I mean, useful ones?

Today, I've decided to write something on what you guys should wear to your classes in the university or college.

Because, staying here, in college, I have seen a lot of people with the most suitable outfits and also, at the same time, I met people who basically wear the wrong outfit to the class. So, here is some guidelines and tips that you might want to use in order to ensure yourself to wear the right piece to your class. Oh yeah, this is only for the girls. :)

1) Keep it simple and sweet. 

Don't try to put too much in one time. Just grab something simple yet pretty. For example, you can just wear a casual jeans (which mean, a plain black or blue jeans) with a long sleeve blouse. And for your tudung, you simply can just wear a plain colored shawl, bawal or ariani. But for me, I guess, it is prettier for a student to wear a shawl or bawal. It suits the personality of a student better.

2) Don't wear excessive amount of accessories. 

Since you still hold the title of being a student, I don't think you should put all the necklaces, bracelets and rings at the same time. Again, keep it simple and sweet.
If you want to wear a bracelet, make sure that the bracelet doesn't have a bright or neon color because it will just add another color to your image, which is, not good. It is even better if you can match your bracelet with your outfit's color for that day. Black, blue-black, white, dark red, soft blue are examples of colors that might go on with any other colors of your outfits. So, yeah, make a good choice, ok?
For my opinion, a plain string with some charms or beads is always the best choice to keep it simple and sweet.
For the ring, you can have any patterns that you like but please, avoid a huge one. Again, keep it simple by choosing the right color. I guess, silvers make the best rings because they fit all colors in the world. Golden ring are pretty and sweet but if you have a huge one with a large diamond on it, I don't really suggest you to wear that kind of ring to the class. It is more to an exclusive occasion style. I've got a friend who wears a golden ring everyday to the class. It is a small and plain golden ring with some unobvious patterns. And, I guess, that's the best type of golden ring to wear to the class.

3) Don't wear more than three colors in one time. 

This is like the simplest thing ever! You can wear any colors that you like but make sure it is less than three colors. This is an example of how you should match the colors of your look that day, if you wear a blue baju kurung on that day, wear a black shoes, black hand socks and a lighter blue (than your baju kurung) for your tudung.

4) Wear a lighter or darker color for your tudung. 

Remember, you are going to a class and not a shopping mall to put on a green tudung together with a pink blouse. It is just so wrong.
Avoid neon and bright colors for your tudung, especially if you are wearing tudung bidang or wider shawls because it is going to ruin your looks. It will be too bright for anyone else in the class to handle.  
Me myself prefer a plain and light colors for my tudung bidang 60 and shawls. Usually, if I wear a pink blouse, I will look out for a lighter pink tudung to match my blouse.

4) Get to know the rules. 

Basically, the rules are most likely like these :
If you are wearing a plain shirt, match it with a tudung that have some prints on it.
If you are wearing a crowded shirt, match it with something plain.
Well, I've got a new rule here.
Since I'm a type of person who wears big tudungs, I have a lot of friends who wears the same thing as I am. So, I make some observations and I think, bright and neon colors are not suitable for tudung bidang 60 or wide shawls. As I mentioned before, it will be too bright for the class to handle. For the ones like me, just pick a fine color that is not too bright.

5) A t-shirt or a blouse? A jeans or a slack?

If you ask me the question, my answer would be a blouse and a slack. And well, Baba himself warns me not to wear a t-shirt to attend the classes because you gonna look much more professional if you put on a blouse and a slack to attend the classes. :)

Well, these are all the guidelines I can ever figure out for now.
These are the things that I learned from my parents and also, based on my own observations.

People might think that these kind of matters doesn't really important to be written down. Since that's is their opinion, I can say nothing about it. But being me the way I was trained since forever, my parents always said that what I wear is something that is going to influence the first impressions of the others towards me. So, what I wear all these years are very important because it reflects who you are and what type of person you are. Me myself believes that through my clothes, I can gain respects from the others and at the same time, make the people to feel much more comfortable to mingle around me.

Talk about dakwah, don't you think Prophet Muhammad pbuh also cares about what he wears? Have you ever thought how professional the Prophet looks? With all his white and clean jubahs, he most probably looks very professional, I think. :D

Just, take care of your image and also, the image of Islam itself.

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