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How To Communicate With Your Classmates?

Assalamualaikum...





Pernah tak nampak atau terjumpa dengan orang yang baik tapi kita rasa tak selesa dengan mereka?

Or..

Pernah tak rasa, kita tak buat salah tapi orang tak nampak macam selesa dengan kita?

Bila masuk kolej ni, saya jumpa ramai orang. Dan dulu pun, saya jumpa ramai orang. Saya berfikir dan tiba-tiba idea ni muncul.

Saya rasa, saya patut tulis pasal ni. :)





Macam mana nak berkomunikasi dengan orang ramai?

Saya tak adalah bagus sangat tapi saya tulis ni pun berdasarkan ciri-ciri yang dimiliki oleh kawan-kawan saya yang saya rasa sangat selesa.

Setiap orang, berbeza.
Umur dan tahap pendidikan, membezakan kebanyakan kita sebenarnya.

Jadi, kalau nak berkomunikasi, kena pilih orang dan pilih cara jugak sebab tak semua orang sesuai dengan cara kita.





Macam mana nak berkomunikasi dengan CLASSMATES. Kita kena sedar, semua orang berbeza-beza cara dan gaya. So, kat sini, saya tulis some of the tips yang mungkin boleh membantu sesiapa yang sedang membaca ni dalam berkomunikasi.

So, yeah..
Here it is..


  • Jangan risaukan orang dengan menyuarakan kerisauan kita. I mean, kalau dengan kawan yang rapat tu bolehlah. Tapi, kalau dengan classmates yang masih belum rapat atau memang takkan rapat, tayah lah cerita pasal sesuatu yang buat kita rasa susah hati. Takut, mesej tu tak sampai. And classmates kita akan rasa bosan dengan kita.




  • Senyum sebanyak yang boleh. Sebab, kalau kita tak senyum, susah untuk orang approach kita sebab diorang tak tahu mood kita. Sometimes, I hate it when some people, mood diorang baik je tapi muka garang, macam orang kematian kucing. Ekspresi muka kena ekspreskan perasaan kita. Just senyum and talk nicely. Kalau rasa macam tak nak cakap about a particular thing, cakap je baik-baik, "Can we talk about this, later?" or "I need few minutes, can I?" Senyum, penting tu.




  • Jangan tanya soalan tentang kehidupan peribadi classmates kita kalau tak cukup rapat lagi dengan diorang. Tiba-tiba nak tanya pasal sejarah cinta, pasal ex-boyfriend dia, pasal ex-bestfriend dia, benda tu semua actually, tak appropriate. Saya bukanlah jahat, tapi, saya memang rasa orang-orang yang tiba-tiba tanya pasal benda-benda macam ni sebenarnya BUSY BODY. Jangan tanya soalan-soalan peribadi dekat classmates, ok? It is annoying, sometimes.


  • Jangan tanya banyak sangat soalan. Kalau kita tak rapat sangat dengan orang tu, jangan tanya banyak sangat soalan dekat dia. Tanya sikit-sikit, basic things dulu. Then, dah lama, baru boleh cakap tentang benda-benda lain yang lebih peribadi. Saya, seriously, akan rasa takut sikit dengan orang yang baru je kenal tapi dah start tanya banyak sangat soalan. Keep it easy, OK?


  • Jangan nak bercerita tentang kehidupan peribadi kita dekat classmates unless dia tu macam besties kita or buddyz (takkan terpisah) kita dalam kelas. Bila orang tak bercerita tentang kehidupan peribadi diorang, itu bermakna diorang tak nak tahu kehidupan peribadi kita jugak. OK, get it?


  • Jangan bercerita benda yang melibatkan emosi. Bila kita disuruh bercerita tentang sesuatu randomly, pick a topic yang simple dan tak terlalu emosional. Instead of bercerita tentang sesuatu yang menyakitkan hati kita, yang buat kita rasa macam nak menangis, lebih baik cerita pasal benda yang menggembirakan kita. At least, kita boleh menggembirakan atau menghiburkan hati orang yang mendengar tu.


  • Communicate with the right way with the right person. Ada classmates kita yang tak boleh bergurau kasar. Ada classmates kita yang kita boleh hina dan kutuk tapi tak terasa dekat hati. Ada orang yang kalau nak bercakap dengan dia, kita kena guna intonasi yang lembut. Ada pulak yang kalau kita cakap kasar pun dia tak peduli. Ada yang terima kutukan sebagai gurauan dan ada yang terima kutukan sebagai kritikan. Find the right people, people!





Macam saya, saya ada dua jenis kawan di INTEC ni. Satu, yang saya boleh berkasar habis-habisan. Dua, yang saya kena berlembut seboleh-bolehnya.

Yang gang kasar ni, saya boleh tegur dengan "Hey, what's up, guys...." or "Heyya, ladies..." Gang ni, kalau disarkastik macam mana sekalipun, diorang takkan terasa.

Contoh conversation yang biasa dengan these people :

"Don't come back to the house, weyh. It feels more comfortable without you around."

"Are you insulting me?"

"I don't want to say this, but yeah.. you deserves it."

Things like these, memang selalu la saya bualkan dengan kawan-kawan saya yang jenis tak kisah.

Tapi, dengan yang lembut, yang sopan santun, saya tak cakap macam ni.

Adapt..

It is just something like,

"Anti...petang ni free tak? Teman ana bukak puasa, jom!"

"OK.. "

"Terima kasih...."

With a very sweet, nice voice.

That's me.






Bukan hipokrit ni..
Tapi ni adalah cara terbaik untuk kita adapt dengan keadaan sekeliling. Tak bolehlah nak assume semua orang boleh terima cara kita. Adjust sikit some of our communication styles and things.. Adjust bukan suruh 360 change in total. No..

:)

Saya harap sangat benda ni membantu, in shaa Allah..

Kalau orang selesa dengan kita, kita pun selesa dengan orang, dakwah pun, in shaa Allah, senang nak jalan. :)

Adapt, OK?


May Allah ease you guys.  

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20 CENTS: Was A Big Issue

Assalamualaikum..



This post is regarding to my class discussion just now. The issue of gas price that rises by 20 cents. I decided to write this in my blog since I couldn’t speak it out in my class. I didn’t say a word about it because I was just too emotional and there was just a lot of others’ opinion that seems to be far away better that mine. The lecturer was nice and she would let me speak if I want to but it was me. I was the one who choose not to talk about the issue.

I want to say this generally. Not because I am a PEMBANGKANG or ANTI-KERAJAAN or something.

Some of the people thought, “It was just 20 cents. If you guys can afford to buy pretty gadgets then, you guys should not say a word about this issue.”

There are people, who taught, “We should be grateful that our government is just so nice to give everything to us, education, subsidies and etc.”



If I mentioned this issue to Baba, he would probably just said, “20 cents only. We can afford it BY NOW.”

Highlighted phrases: “BY NOW”.

I am grateful that government doesn’t rises the price up to RM2 or something. It costs only 20 cents. I am grateful!

But, if you asked me about this years ago, I might said ONLY BAD things about it.

I wasn’t rise up in a rich family. I used to be a poor girl when I was in the primary school. Baba didn’t have any proper job by that time. Mama had to ‘buat nasi lemak’ and some ‘kuih’ to support our family. Adik went to the hospital for two weeks. I need to pay for my registration fees to the school, monthly school fees, tuition fees, textbooks…

I could hardly breathe by that time. It was deplorable.

People looked at us as if we have the money but the truth is, we didn’t even have a comfy life by that time.

 And, the 20 cents rise in every liter of gas petrol is a BIG MATTER.



Whenever there is an announcement about this issue in the TV, I could hear Mama nagged and sighed about it. She drive to ‘hantar’ all those ‘nasik’ and ‘kuih’ few times a day. She needs to pick me and Adik from school. She needs to send me to my tuition classes, as well as Adik. In a day, she might went out about 8-10 times.

Since we were not that ‘rich’ by that time, 20 cents matters.

Mama only get about 20 cents for each ‘kuih’ by that time. When the gas price rose up, the price of the ‘kuih’ should be increased by few cents as well as the price of the ingredients rose up too. But, when the price of those ‘kuih’ increased, the customers will choose not to buy those ‘kuih’.

So, by time, Mama get less and less profit from her business. The price of the ‘kuih’ just stay the same but the fund had increased.

It was hard.



To those people, who taught that we should be grateful enough, I guess, YOU should be grateful enough that you doesn’t have to suffer like me (before) or the others who live in that kind of world. If you know how hard it is to suffer for the rise of ONLY 20 CENTS, you might wouldn’t say the same.

We must, be GRATEFUL.

But just think about the others.

How can they be GRATEFUL?

This is just my opinion, based on my own experience.

I hope you guys can see things in a different point of view by now.

:)

#mayAllahbless

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Selfish People with Rational Reasons (English Essay for SPM)

Assalamualaikum.. 

OK.. Saya tahu saya tak adalah pandai sangat dalam buat esei English. The previous one seems to be ridiculous but I will not remove it from my blog, just in case, you guys need a lame essay to study. 

Esei yang dekat bawah ni saya buat untuk assignment saya. Topik yang saya terima adalah 'Reasons Why The People Become More Selfish'. Jadi, selepas menyiapkan esei ni, saya rasa ia mungkin berguna untuk sesiapa yang memerlukannya. To those yang ambil SPM, this essay might can help. 

Harap-harapnya some of you dapatlah benefit sikit dari esei ni. :) 

Oh yeah.. Saya letakkan gambar for each paragraph (just for some deco). Sebab, taknak korang boring masa esei ni. :D

#InshaaAllah



Selfish often heard as a negative word. Most of us believe that happiness starts from being selfless. But no one actually can prove that we can succeed without being one. Mark Zuckerberg himself said that if he has not being selfish, he will not be where he is now. People become more selfish not because they are such a malevolent but, they realize that they have their own life, ambitions and too much things to be worried about.



Everyone have their own life to live on, which mean, they responsible for their own success in career and happiness. Each of us has different jobs and careers to carry on and we are the only one who can drive our career into a success. Then, who else know about what we want to do or what we want to be more than ourselves. Selfless person thought it is fine to be miserable or upset in order to keep everyone else happy. But, logically, why would you be miserable sacrificing for people that does not love you or willing to sacrifice for you while you can actually make things different for yourself? People starts to understand that they have their own life, they are the one who need to work on for their own victories and joyfulness and that is when people becoming slightly selfish.



Most of the people who turn into a selfish person are mostly ambitious and they aim for a higher place in the society and they believe that they have to meet their own targets to make an accomplishment. People see that it is compulsory to be a little bit selfish, give a force to whoever that seems to be a stumbling block in order to get to a higher place. It is because, if we don’t push ourselves together with everyone else, we might never move to a higher place. An ambitious person will always compare their work with their peers and emulate the success of their heroes in order to achieve their goals. These kind of people put faith in their hard works and do almost everything to achieve their goal that sometimes, misunderstood by others as a selfish action. Selfish-ambitious persons planned for a higher place and few new records for themselves but only few of them make use of the others.



Dilemmas, complications, conflicts are too much to be worried of by an individual and these issues have a high possibility to lead the individual to become less focus and unsatisfied. Most people believe that by worrying, it will form harmful emotions which will distract them from making a clear decision. Thus, in order to make a right choice for the future, one must be a little selfish to keep them on the right track. Selfless people often consider others’ opinion that sometimes does not met him or her self-satisfaction just because they did not want to be labeled as a selfish person. By doing this, they actually have drove themselves to be unsatisfied with their own work. People become more selfish, not because they choose to be but they know, to succeed they should not be troubled by too much things or else, they will be distracted and unfulfilled.



The world should change their perception about being selfish because by now, people realized that we are the one who runs for our life, we have lot of dreams and it is such a waste to doubt too much about others. Becoming selfless, means we order ourselves to concern about almost everything which made ourselves becoming more disturbed and unsatisfied. We have lot of dreams that require hard works to be at the top and to meet our goals. Last but not least, people become more selfish because they have their own life with different careers and different form of happiness. But, all of these are not negative things to be done by a person who care about their purposes of life. The world should not accuse people who take all these responsibilities as a selfish in a bad impression while they are the one who are making the world go round. Selfishness is the key to be happy and success at the same time.




   

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